18 year old dating 40 year old
I've wondered if there's as much of a stigma in the straight community, or if there'd be as much or more of a stigma if a 19 year old guy was dating a hot 38 year old woman. In a way, I can identify very closely with someone who is in their late teens or early 20s.(I don't think I mentioned that my co-worker is a particularly young looking 38; if I were to cast him in a movie I'd probably go with Seth Meyers ( from SNL- so it could be jealousy since if I were to cast myself I'd probably go with Burl Ives : D .) Now otoh, I don't have the slightest problem looking at male strippers who aren't much if any older than 19 anymore than most straight guys would mind looking at female strippers that age, but somehow that's different because... If I was with someone who was college-aged, I wouldn't feel that we didn't share a similar set of experiences.)- the lady he just broke up with was a grandmother.She was a very young grandmother (she had a kid when she was about 18 and that child had a child when she was about 22- the lady was slightly older than my co-worker- probably 41-42- and became a grandmother after they started dating- and though I'm gay I can still say she looks better in a pair of tight jeans than any "granny" I ever saw). Usually, I pursue/date women who are between their early 30s and early 40s. Although I don't think I could date someone who is 19, I can understand how such a relationship could happen.Point taken but the point I'm making is that it's much less likely to be a level playing field emotionally between the two when the guy is 15-20 years older.May-December attractions have their risks and downsides, but generally speaking, acquaintance rape isn't one of them.The tricky thing to being a never married single guy in your 30s is that you may think a woman who is actually in your age group is much older ...not that she looks like she's in her 50s, but just too old for you.
I won't say anything about it because I learned long ago that nobody (myself most certainly included) is going to listen to anybody else where their sex-life is concerned and, as somebody here pointed out, 19 is above the age of consent in every state, but here's another weirdity (is that a word?
Also the fact that he's from Scotland - for all she knows he could be married and just coming over here for a bit of action every now and then... That's when their age differences really show the most..the younger one esp. I WAG it is the older one's way of foolishly thinking one can escape a mid-life crisis in this fashion..to wake up one day with a total stranger when reality comes a-calling. The only upside of being middle-aged is that you can date women half your age and no one gets to say "boo" about it.
I would be interested to find out how much the 19 yr old mentioned in the OP's family know about her 'relationship' with your colleague. For such great age differences, I can't believe this is true beyond the superficial layer called lust (and/or gold digging)? From the age of 32 to 37, I dated a woman 17 years my senior. As long as nobody's breaking the law and everyone's having fun, I don't see a problem here.
Most college-age women who are drugged and raped, are drugged and raped by their generational peers, frequently by fellow students.
What your sister endured was a horrible crime, but it wasn't part of a larger general pattern of older men slipping roofies into younger women's drinks. I've never been married, so parts of my life are in an arrested stage of development.